Monday, April 02, 2012

Guest Post: A Lesson in Worth for New Bloggers


"You got to know what your love is worth" ~ Del the Funky Homosapien

I'm so happy to welcome Jessica from Mommyhood Next Right to my blog today. We have been bloggy friends for over a year now, and it seems we have had parallel experiences as moms. Q is about a year older than her Nya, and we were pregnant with our second at the same time. Zoe was born a month before Annah. We may live across the country from each other, but it feels like we are next door neighbors many ways. When I read her blog, she always inspires me to write more often. And I think this post will only continue in that vein. Plus, I believe her tips can be applied to many passions in life -- not just blogging. Be sure to visit her blog for some precious photos of her little ones and for some very genuine insights on motherhood, writing, and more.

I wrote a post in February on my blog called Facebook Friends. It’s a post about one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned as a blogger. No, I take that back, as the lesson I learned has less to do with blogging and more to do with me, or the “me” that existed long before my days of blogging.

That lesson begins with something of my past, something of a Valentine’s Day “surprise” of roses and dozens of balloons. That lesson continues with hundreds of Facebook friends that weren’t really my friends at all and ends with something of my present: It (or the lesson from the post) is the one I’d like to share with all new bloggers. Oh, wait, not just new bloggers, but maybe I’d share this lesson with all women, men, and children who have ever convinced themselves that popularity can be a ticket to self-satisfaction, to happiness, to security.

So what’s the lesson? I know. You’ve waited long enough. The lesson that I’ve learned is that in order to be the kind of (fill in the blank) that you admire, you must know your worth and live from that place. What can the “fill in the blank” be? Well, anything from blogger to dancer to human being to parent.

As it pertains to blogging specifically, in knowing your worth, you must know and believe that you can be a fabulous blogger. You must know and believe that you have something to say and that others want to hear what you have to say. You must know and believe that you don’t need to cajole others with promises of something in return in order for them to want to hear what you have to say.

You must know and believe that you are worth more than a Facebook friend that you don’t really like, a coupon or free product that you hate or can’t use, a Facebook "like," a follower who offers you nothing more than a follow back. You are worth more because you are. Just because you are.

To be a better blogger, to become a better blogger, you must understand your worth first. You must recognize your worth and decide to blog from that place. You must choose to:
1.     Write what you’re passionate about, because writing about crap that you hate really sucks.
2.     Write when you can. If that’s only once a week, then so be it! Really.
3.     Write because you want to write.
4.     Like, follow, tweet the people you are truly interested in liking, following, or tweeting. Make the kinds of connections that matter to you.
5.     Value your work and your integrity because really, in this blogosphere, it’s all you have.
6.      Proofread your work. Promote it. Love it because it's yours.

Yes, it’s that simple. Know your worth, new bloggers. Know your worth. That’s all.

14 comments:

  1. Thank you for having me, Micheline! I adore your introduction!

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    1. My pleasure! Your post is really hitting home for me right now as I try to put both my writing for work and writing for play in perspective.

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  2. Wise words, Jessica. Especially writing what you love and when you want to. Quality over quantity!

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    1. Exactly!I think it's easy to want to feel pressured by the idea of needing more quantity to keep people interested, but that's not always the case. I think the key is to keep people interested with your words. If they like your words, they'll always come back, no matter when you post. :)

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    2. I completely agree with quality over quantity! Makes me feel not so bad for only posting a couple of times a week, too. ;)

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  3. Excellent advice, Jessica! Write what you love, when you want to. And focus on those real connections!

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    1. Yes!! Focusing on the real connections is what makes blogging feel like, well, fun. If you're not focusing on the real connections, the real people, it can begin to feel like a crappy job.

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    2. Yes, it's all about the good relationships you develop. The "follow me, I'll follow you" doesn't get you very far.

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  4. Know your worth is probably the biggest advice you can give a blogger.
    Thank you. I will keep this in mind.

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    1. Thanks for stopping by, Mirjam. This lesson is one I had to learn with time. Once I did, I began to enjoy blogging more.

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    2. And applies to so much, right? Motherhood definitely included.

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  5. Sometimes you have to find your voice first...it took me a long time to find out what I was trying to convey.
    But I think that once you find that inner voice run as fast as you can with it. Your space is your voice, soul, heart.
    You can't go wrong when you write from those sweet spots.
    Great post friend.
    xoxo

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    1. Oh, very, very true! "But I think that once you find that inner voice run as fast as you can with it." - I love that!:)

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    2. I also love that quote. Very wise words, Kimberly!

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