"Well I've missed my bus, I know I'm late, I've gotta do something I know I hate" ~ Frankie Smith
Here is where I make some use of this public blog to unabashedly beg for some mama advice. I have been researching preschools for Q for the past several months on and off (well, mostly off -- which will become more obvious as the post goes on). I'm confused. Overwhelmed. Late to the party. A failure of a mom. Shouldn't we be on several waiting lists by now?
Well, we're on one. We have visited a grand total of one school so far. And it wasn't even a real preschool -- it's more of a "playschool" run out of this lovely woman's home. It's for younger kids, as in Q could start right now if there was an opening. But there's not likely to be one anytime soon. And I know we need to do more. I do plan to attend a preschool fair next weekend and possibly visit another school on Tuesday. But ugh, I feel so lost. So many questions.
Most preschools only accept children who will be 3 by the December of the year they enroll (at least 2.9 years old). Q turns 3 in January. Does that mean he has to wait another year? We're also considering toddler programs that meet two or three times a week for a couple of hours at a time. Worth it?
How am I supposed to know what would be best for our family? I'm pretty sure that I don't want to do Montessori because I like the play-based approach better, but is that really what's best for Q? Do we need to just try a school out and see if it works for him? I like the idea of a co-op, but I don't know if that's best for my work schedule. Right now I have a pretty flexible work environment, but that may not always be the case.
I'm also scared that Q might be that kid at preschool. He's still pretty aggressive with other kids. Mostly hair-pulling and grabbing. I can tell he wants to play with other kids but doesn't know how. We're trying to teach him, but it's hard when there aren't many opportunities to be around other kids. Partially because I'm afraid of litigious parents and also because we just don't have many friends with little ones. But some sort of preschool will teach him these very social skills, right? Or should he have passed this aggressive phase before he starts a program? Maybe he's just not ready yet. Should I try some other types of weekly classes and activities with other kids first?
This preschool madness is one of the toughest parts about being the first of your friends in the area to have kids. It's also totally my bad for not making more attempts to meet other parents in our 'hood. Whereas some new moms might have the problem of getting overwhelmed by preschool suggestions from other parents, I am quite underwhelmed. I feel so alone in this.
If any of you readers out there have any insight or stories to share, I would be forever at your mercy. Totally owe you big time. Help me. Pretty please.