Tuesday, March 20, 2007

Surreal Evolution

I just got back from a little road trip down to Santa Barbara and the LA area where Tob and I hooked up with some good friends from college. Despite being a whirlwind getaway, it was both relaxing and fascinating. Why fascinating? Well, I became aware of so much change in our social world. Eye-opening change. Like, oh yeah, we're all pretty much adults now (or at least we're supposed to be).

Most of my friends in the Bay have not yet entered the realm of "married with children," and I've chalked that up to living an urban lifestyle and not seeing settling down as a major priority. I applaud that actually. But my friends down south have married and own homes, while one couple recently had their first baby. On a breezy, warm evening when I was chatting with a friend about future family plans, I was struck by how surreal this moment of our lives was. Here we were-- old college roommates, party girls, flirts, dancing queens, c-dubs (don't ask), etc.. How did we suddenly enter the world of mortgages and baby bath products?

It's a strange place to be, but I think I can get used to it. And somehow that scares me and excites me at the same time. Am I really all growns up?


  1. welcome to my world.

    Although i think there are gender-specific perspectives that take place when it comes to family. All of my girlfriends tell me to hurry up, while the fellas say take your time.

  2. Definitely gender-specific. This also comes into play when all of my girlfriends want to have a big 30th celebration while the guys want to drown their sorrows with a 1/5th of whiskey and cry themselves to sleep.

  3. Different strokes for different folks. I hate to sound hippy dippy, but I honestly think that when people relax, things just fall into place. IF it's meant to happen it will. But that includes inner motivation and desire. Does that make sense?

  4. It's a strange place to be indeed. I don't want kids - I probably never will and yet, for the first time in my life, I find myself wondering if I'm missing out on something truly spectacular. Michie, will you just hurry up and have some damn babies so I can reap the benefits of having a little munchkin around but not have to deal with all the bullshit? I know, I'm not helping...